The Crap Threshold

No, not the Craps threshold. I don’t gamble.

Have you ever wanted to make something successful that simply wasn’t possible?

I know I have. Many times in my life. I don’t know if it’s because I’m dense or because I get focused on one track and once I’m on it I can’t deviate. I just try to keep on chugging away. I believe that you should always try to make things work and if they aren’t working, I assume it’s my fault and/or responsibility.

In that regard, I may be defective. Most people have at least some ability to see when the wheels are coming off the train and jump to safety. I seem to prefer riding it out and hoping not to die. Death is a high price to pay for path dependency. IMO.

Something snapped in my brain about a month ago. All my life I’ve put up with crap and let people walk over me. I was “taking the high road” or “being nice” or whatever. When my brain finally snapped, I decided that I deserve to be treated well. If someone is your friend, they shouldn’t be taking advantage of you or mistreating you. If they are, letting it slide is the wrong answer. It just leads to more of the same, and it escalates over time.

The people surrounding me have noticed the change, I’m sure. It was pretty drastic and I may have overcompensated. My crap threshold went from infinity to zero in one fell swoop. There’s probably a balance in there somewhere between infinity and zero, but my guess is that it errs on the zero side. Since I’ve got no experience at standing up to crap, it’s just gonna be a little bit messy for a while.

I don’t think it’s too much to ask that I be treated kindly and with at least the amount of respect you’d give the QuikTrip cashier. Many people over the years have accused me of not having a crap threshold. Apparently I just filled my lifetime quota.

  4 comments for “The Crap Threshold

  1. Donoman
    September 29, 2011 at 6:30 pm

    It’s funny how it escalates over time…and you can’t spell time without tim-e…I’ll let everyone else figure that out.

  2. Christen Blando
    September 30, 2011 at 5:45 am

    Everyone has a breaking point Incredipete. You’ve had your share of difficulties lately. Know what your breaking points are, try to avoid them, but when you can’t, embrace your difficulties and ask yourself “is this worth wrecking myself over or is this something I can walk away from and get relief?” If it’s the first, dig your heels in and work to embrace and live inside the “making it work” zone. If it’s the latter, walk away, hold your head up, and know life is still going to keep moving all around you; so jump in,and join it. You’re such a wonderful man Incredipete. Those of us who know you are priviledged to do so. In fact, to know you really is to love you. Prayers going your way my friend. Keep your chin up high and smile (even when you feel like crying). Eventually that smile will be real again. And when you DO need to cry, call someone you can trust completely, and cry with them. You’ve been a great friend to many. I’m sure any and all of us will repay the favor gleefully! Do not feel you need to publish this post. This is to you.

  3. Megs
    September 30, 2011 at 10:12 am

    You have no idea how proud of you I am. It’s about damn time.

  4. L
    October 3, 2011 at 9:21 pm

    You’ve put in so much for so long that all of us out here owe you debts of gratitude, George Bailey. Glad you’ve decided no on Mr. Potter. Real friends show up even in a blizzard to remind you that love is a two-way street.

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