Sometimes I wonder if my priorities are right. I don’t mean God, family, work in that order. I think that goes without saying. I mean the day to day stuff.

For example, Im a bit OCD and I usually clean before I do anything else. But should I actually be playing with Lu or sitting face to face talking with Nicole or calling a friend instead? I think I tend to put too much emphasis on being responsible in the sense I get tasks done, but not spending my time making the biggest impact.

I know that when I do things around the house it’s appreciated, but how much more important is connecting with each other? Lu wants my time and attention. I don’t want to miss out on that. On the other hand, she needs to see me being an example of responsibility. 

I guess the feeling I have is that I am giving 100% but I’m an unguided missile. I only have so many chips to spend each day and once they’re spent I can’t get them back. 

You don’t always have to defer enjoyable things until after the work is all done. But that’s what I do. I have laser focus on getting work done and so I tell Lu, no, I will play with you when I’m done. Next thing I know it’s bedtime and I never spent time with her. 

And yes, I know I need to give myself a break. I have to take it a day at a time. But aside from my relationship with God, Nicole and Lu are THE priority. Lu needs me to be the best daddy I can be, and if I don’t make her a high priority, what will that teach her about herself? Nicole deserves the best husband I can possibly be. If I don’t do that, where does that leave her? 

It’s so easy in life to become stuck in an endless cycle of routine daily nonsense and lose track of what really matters. I don’t know how to stop that from happening without consciously making that the focus. The messes will always be there when I get back to them. My leftover work from my job will be waiting for me. There will always be 100 other things I could be doing instead of focusing on my family. Bad plan.

I will become a better man, daddy and husband every day. One day at a time.

  2 comments for “Priorities

  1. Christen
    June 13, 2012 at 9:37 am

    I tried to prioritize on purpose the things that were of the moment vs. the things that could wait. When there were duties the kids and Jim could help with, we tried to have everyone’s involvement toward that end, with the understanding that “fun family time” would directly follow. As a result, all 3 kids can cook, clean, mow, do laundry, and without too much complaining. It worked for us. Just be careful not to push your own cleaning standards onto your family unless they are reasonable. Sometimes, we think OUR WAY of doing things is the ONLY way of doing it. That can make it drudgery for your kiddos. Love ya Incredipetey. You’re a great Daddy! The fact that you’d even stop to think these things through proves it.

  2. Heather
    June 14, 2012 at 9:51 pm

    Yeah, this is what worries me. Everybody says that they let their clean homes go once they have kids, but I’ve already let my clean home go. What will I do?

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