It sure is funny to see how events that are factual get spun after the fact.
I’m not sure if people just do damage control or if they’re really so out of touch they don’t realize they’re doing it. Generally speaking, when something happens, no matter how much time passes, that thing still happened. That’s my understanding of how history works.
Sometimes it starts out as spin and then they spin it so much they start believing their own bullshit (remember, I have declared bullshit to be a non-bad word).
If you want to be a giant jerk or get butthurt when I speak the truth (which I always do gently), that doesn’t make me a bad guy. However, I am DONE spending time with people that return evil for good and then convince themselves that everyone else is the problem, not them. Guess what… sometimes when people tell you you’re messing up, it’s because you’re messing up. If nobody’s perfect, that includes you.
But if you hear that you’re messing up from 400 people including dozens that genuinely care about you… and you still decide you’re not messing up, then you can’t be surprised when they stop talking to you. And when you spin it to make it all about how you’re the victim, it just makes you look like a big baby. Perhaps if you can’t handle your position gracefully you have picked the wrong position?
Put on your big kid pants. Don’t try to spin, lie, revise history, or blow smoke up everyone’s butt. If you’re convinced everyone else is wrong and you’re right, then freaking OWN IT. Say it out loud and mean it… “This is what I think and the rest of you can suck it.”
Just freaking say it. At least I could respect that.
And I promise to do the same. Right here. I speak my mind here and I always have. I’ve never censored or deleted anything I’ve written, even if years later I realize I was wrong. This is a place where you see a snapshot in time of what I believe and think. I always allow response to what I say, and I own what I say. No backtracking. No apologizing. For example, the world is a better place without George Tiller. Period. I said it right here, I believe it, and I own that opinion. I’m not going to go back and delete that post and say I never believed that. Because that’s revisionist history. Even if someday I change my mind about it, I’ll never delete those posts. Ever.
Own your words. Own your actions. That’s the definition of character.