We all have someone or someones in our lives who are negative ALL the time. Buy them a pony and they’ll complain that it poops. Give them a compliment and they’ll roll their eyes. Am I right? You have someone in your mind right now, I’m sure.
I’ve always wondered what drives this type of person. It can’t possibly be fun to look for the grey in every silver lining. EVERY one of us has irritating, bad, and otherwise obnoxious crap happen to us EVERY day. Seriously, every day. You can probably think of something obnoxious that happened in your life today.
You didn’t have to think very hard, did you?
But 80%+ of the population let that stuff roll off their back. If you’re looking for something to be irritated or mad at, you will be irritated and mad 24/7. You may have a few hours of time not spent mad or irritated, but it will be while you’re asleep.
I suppose I wouldn’t mind if a friend of mine was a negative ned or nancy, except that they INSIST on spewing their bile on me and everyone around them. I mean seriously – I know misery loves company, but what would possibly lead you to believe I want to know that your Starbucks coffee didn’t have enough squirts of flavor in it. For real, who gives a flying you know what!?
Let it go already.
You woke up this morning, and there are probably many things in your life that don’t suck. Right? Do you spend any of your time talking about the things that are good? Do you? Well? Or do you spend all your time bitching and moaning about completely insignificant minutia that isn’t quite perfect?
Did you know that scientific studies show that negativity increases risk of diabetes and heart disease by 25%? It does. Did you know that people who have emotional control live on average three years longer? They do.
That can’t be a coincidence.
I am the type of person that tends to absorb the mood around me. I know that’s a character flaw, and I’m working on it. But that means if I go to lunch with you and you spend the entire time complaining about every little thing, you’re literally taking minutes off the end of my life. You’re a murderer.
Phillipians 4:8 says “whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.” That sounds like the opposite of whining. It sounds like God’s plan for us is to be positive, and at a minimum, self-controlled (one of the fruit of the Spirit).
So next time you want to gripe about everything, keep it to yourself or whine to your goldfish. We other humans don’t deserve to have our lives shortened.