Even non-Christians know that being kind is important. What child hasn’t been taught the Golden Rule?
So why is it that so often “Christians” are the least kind people out there? Did they just gloss over that part of the Bible?
The Bible says to “speak the truth in love” which is the opposite of yelling at strangers that they’re GOING TO HELL. Even if you really believe the person you’re talking to is going to hell… do you honestly think they’re going to want to spend eternity with a-holes like you?
The entire point of the passage on the Fruit of the Spirit is that if you have those qualities (which you will if you’re a Christian), people will see that there is something different and awesome about you, and their curiosity will be the opening for personal evangelism (which is a topic for another day).
When was the last time you changed someone’s mind about something by having a fight with them? Exactly.
So stop thinking you can evangelize at gunpoint.
Just be nice. It’s not that hard.