I Need A Career Woman

It’s not that I hate everyone.

I like me.

I like my pups.

Sometimes I even like my family.

But the fact of the matter is, I’m far too self-absorbed to spend time thinking about other people. If I do something considerate for you, then you should count yourself very lucky, because it’s not normal.

I get immersed in what I’m doing, and everything else becomes secondary. People try to talk to me when I’m working on something, and usually I don’t even realize they’re there.

But honestly, it’s not that I hate them. I just have a very focused approach to problem-solving. There are times I’ll start working on something after work, and the next thing I know, the sun has come up and it’s time to go back to work. And people wonder why I’m tired all the time.

The times I’ve been in serious relationships, the number one complaint of the girl is that I don’t pay enough attention to her. It isn’t that I don’t try. It isn’t that I hate her, or that I’m bored with her. If I’m focused on her, I can’t be easily distracted from that, either. But I’m not going to focus on her 12 hours a day. That’s not realistic, and it isn’t going to happen. Maybe a couple of hours. Some days, not at all.

I haven’t yet met a girl that could handle that without thinking I hated her. That’s one reason that friends are better than girlfriends. Friends expect that you won’t focus a lot of time on them, and they’re pleasantly surprised when you do something nice for you. Girlfriends, on the other hand, feel entitled to at least “some” time each day. But I ask you, what about the days when I’m too busy to do that? Theoretically, she’ll be so busy with her medical practice that she won’t necessarily have lots of time to spend with me, either.

The key there is finding someone that is absorbed, at least at some level, in her career. If she’s working as a cashier at the grocery store, she’s not going to be bringing a lot of work home with her, and she’ll expect more of my time. Ya know what I mean? And no, I’m not saying anything bad about cashiers… my mom was even a cashier for a while… while she finished her degree, which she got so she could get a good job…also known as a “career.”

And maybe that’s the point. I need to find someone that has a “career,” not a “job.” Or just someone that isn’t insecure and needy… I’m just saying.

  9 comments for “I Need A Career Woman

  1. November 30, -0001 at 12:00 am

    AUTHOR: Incredipete I think Wendy discovered my actual point, which was, I need someone that needs me as infrequently as I need her, otherwise it’s not going to work…

  2. November 30, -0001 at 12:00 am

    AUTHOR: Gracy Incredipete Sound like a couple I know, they both travel alot so they dont have much time for each other. I would think in a relationship or marriage you must focus on each other to keep the thing going. I don’t think they run on autopilot I takes work and focus from both sides. But hey I’m not dating or married right now so what do I know. Hope to see you soon.

  3. November 30, -0001 at 12:00 am

    AUTHOR: Gracy Incredipete Sound like a couple I know, they both travel alot so they dont have much time for each other. I would think in a relationship or marriage you must focus on each other to keep the thing going. I don’t think they run on autopilot I takes work and focus from both sides. But hey I’m not dating or married right now so what do I know. Hope to see you soon.

  4. November 30, -0001 at 12:00 am

    AUTHOR: warcrygirl That was the point I was hoping to make. I wonder what would happen if Incredipete needed attention and the girlfriend told him he was blocking the t.v.?

  5. November 30, -0001 at 12:00 am

    AUTHOR: Wendy Aren’t you worried that a “career” woman might not have time for you either? Just a thought….

  6. BJD
    November 30, -0001 at 12:00 am

    AUTHOR: BJD A brilliant analysis. She is out there, and when you find her, it will work.

  7. November 30, -0001 at 12:00 am

    AUTHOR: Incredipete I like people that are just like me.

  8. November 30, -0001 at 12:00 am

    AUTHOR: warcrygirl Sounds like you need a girlfriend who’s just like you.

  9. November 30, -0001 at 12:00 am

    AUTHOR: Andy You really seem to be analyizing this relationship thing. Can’t it just be left at If it works great, if not, oh well? Is it really all that complicated? Oh, and I try to explain to people that I am “Focused” as well, but I think they just translate it to “Spaz”

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