Fair is for Sissies

The left is constantly talking about things being fair… as if anything in the real world or America has anything to do with fair. Fair is what you make of it. How many wildly successful people overcame tough circumstances? How many “overnight successes” worked quietly and steadily for 20 years before they finally got their big break?

Life isn’t fair, it’s not supposed to be fair, and frankly, it shouldn’t be fair. Those who work the hardest will ultimately be successful, even if a bunch of bad stuff happens to them along the way. The very mindset that says “that’s not fair” is the mindset that is doomed to failure. Successful people are successful because they don’t give up when unfair crap happens to them.

I had a photography professor – chair of the department at the college, making LOTS of money… He wanted to be a photographer – a successful one. He took a bus across country to Rochester, NY, which is where one of the best photography programs is (Rochester Tech). He didn’t have a penny to his name. He got a job for minimum wage, worked as an apprentice part time (for no pay), and used ALL of his income to pay tuition. He literally lived under a porch for four years.

You CANNOT keep someone like that down. They will be successful because they have the will to be. When opportunity knocks, that kind of person has already done all of the preparation they need. If you’re waiting for a break to be successful, you’re barking up the wrong tree. If you aren’t preparing yourself for the direction you want to go with your life, you will NEVER get to have that life. It has nothing to do with fairness. It’s about will, determination, and hard work.

I’ve never met a successful person who had it easy. I’m sure there are exceptions, but they aren’t the rule.

The Democrats love to harp on how it’s not fair that we have such disparity between our upper and lower class. Give me a break. The upper class didn’t get there by accident. The poor didn’t get there by accident, either. Poor is a mindset just as much as rich is a mindset. Poor people make poor people decisions… they don’t get education, they claim it’s because they can’t afford it or don’t have a car, or whitey’s keeping them down, or whatever. Whenever they get a little bit of money, they buy idioted crap like rims and Nike shoes and bling instead of using it for education or investing.

Only a bed-wetting sissy wussbag would ever complain about life not being fair, at least not in America. There are some countries where no amount of hard work will get you anywhere… THIS is not one of them.

If you’re able-bodied and/or able-minded and you’re still poor… you probably need to do a bit of self reflection to figure out why you keep making bad decisions.

  14 comments for “Fair is for Sissies

  1. Paul
    February 18, 2008 at 6:04 pm


  2. February 18, 2008 at 8:21 pm


  3. February 19, 2008 at 9:18 am

    But…it’s no fair. I don’t want to work. I want someone else to work so I can buy some new rims for my car.


    Pardon me, I have to get on a plane and leave my family for a while so I can climb the corporate ladder and then buy fancier rims.

  4. livieloo
    February 19, 2008 at 3:14 pm

    Well said!

  5. February 19, 2008 at 5:12 pm

    I’ve met quite a few successful people who like to pretend they worked a lot harder and had a lot fewer advantages than they actually had. Also, they’ve mostly been Class-A assholes with little in the way of ethics.

    I do know some people who have worked hard and achieved much, but they don’t have the same money or power level as the ones who were born rich.

  6. HRT
    February 19, 2008 at 7:31 pm

    I am so tempted to re-start a bloggidy-blog-blog-blog of my own. This world is replete with so many idiots if I don’t say something about it, I fear that my head may explode. Even if I only had 5 readers, that’d be almost triple Al Franken’s Air America audience.

  7. Incredipete
    February 19, 2008 at 11:49 pm

    I think that the number of people who are “born rich” are such a tiny itsy-bitsy percentage of the wealthy people in the country, it’s hardly worth even mentioning them…

  8. HRT
    February 20, 2008 at 9:39 am

    …however, it is substantially easier for people who are born into a place where success is modeled to them by a relative, parent, friend, or mentor than it is for someone who was born into a life of subsistence, raised in poverty and despair and surrounded by nothing but low-life’s, thugs and negative examples. It’s far easier to point out the successful exemplary exceptions who have broken out of their caste than to face the reality of the vast majority of tragic failures. I’m not saying that as an excuse, just an observation.

  9. February 20, 2008 at 12:25 pm

    Let’s not forget that for the most part, the people who are “born rich” are people whose parents or grandparents made good decisions… very little of it is actually luck.

  10. HRT
    February 20, 2008 at 1:41 pm

    The choices we make today, for better or for worse, will have a powerful affect not only on our own lives but on the lives of future generations, choose wisely.

    Winning is a habit. Unfortunately, so is losing.
    — Vince Lombardi

  11. February 20, 2008 at 2:22 pm


    The majority of the wealth is controlled by a minority of the population. While this study indicates that most people don’t inherit big chunks of money, it appears that trust funds are not counted as inheritance – rather, they are part of the wealth held.

    Most of the rich types I’ve worked for have been trust-fund babies.

    Also, read “Nickel & Dimed” (I believe the author is Barbara Ehrenreich. I may have spelled the last name wrong). It has to do with how it is nearly impossible to survive on a $7-$8 an hour job.

    I understand that your point is, people who really, really want it will find a way to persevere. Maybe that’s true. But I think there are a lot of people who work their asses off and can’t get ahead.

    And let’s not even talk about how screwed up the minimum wage is…

  12. February 20, 2008 at 4:43 pm

    The minimum wage was never intended to be what it has become today – the safety net for working folks. It was intended as a floor to wages that were supposed to be for people entering the workforce, who were frankly not worth more than that… like your high school kids working part time at McDonalds. No one would try to argue that minimum wage is a living wage for an adult with a family. However, it does make me wonder – I was able to get a job when I was 17 that paid $6.30 an hour, which is more than minimum wage, and through hard work, 4 years later I was making twice that. I still fervently believe that success is about hard work and good decisions.

  13. HRT
    February 20, 2008 at 7:04 pm

    I am going to come down squarely in the middle of those last two comments. 🙂 JK.

    But seriously, I am curious who is it that takes a job for minimum wage, works as hard as he or she is capable of working for 10+ years and still is only making minimum wage? This is just hard for me to completely understand, but then I work for a University and try to help people everyday to earn a degree and to change their lives and you would be amazed at how many people wouldn’t blink at taking out a loan for a $30,000 car but whine and complain because school costs a few thousand dollars and “heaven forbid” they may actually have to take out a government guaranteed student loan that they’ll have 20 years to pay back.

    But seriously, I’m not bitter…

    …well a little bitter at tax time.

  14. February 25, 2008 at 8:38 am

    I missed argueing with you these last two years, Incredipete. Stop by the new site one of these days

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