I’ve been getting emails asking if I’m still alive, because apparently not posting here is evidence that I’m dead despite almost real-time updates of my Facebook page. But I soon realized that I have strict privacy settings on Facebook along with a self-imposed 150 friend limit, so many of you may be unaware of my updates.
Don’t feel bad if you aren’t my Facebook friend. My 150 friend limit was something I did to rid myself of countless hours frittered away reading updates of people that I hadn’t seen in 10 years. My criteria for selecting friends on Facebook are simple. First, have I seen you in the past 10 years, and am I likely to see you in the next 5 years? If the answer is no, you probably don’t get to be my friend unless I really, really like you (or I’m interested in what you have to say). There are a couple of high school friends I’ve kept around because I find their commentary intellectually stimulating.
Second, if I suspect you may be a judgmental fundamentalist twit, you don’t get to be my friend. Sorry, this is not the American judicial system. You don’t get due process. My suspicion alone is grounds for termination of our Facebook friendship. I frequently post photos on Facebook and my fundamentalist “friends” had a bad habit of flagging them as inappropriate, which was causing Facebook to send me automated threats of cancellation on a regular basis. Not only did I find this annoying, I found it unjust considering I never posted a photo that remotely came NEAR the line, let alone crossed it. I never violated Facebook’s policy on photos, and the people flagging them were merely being a-holes.
Third, if I suspect you are friends with someone I don’t want in my business *cough*ex girlfriends, herff jones coworkers, certain family members*cough*, you are banned. I have happily blocked several psychos from my Facebook and I don’t need mutual “friends” helping them keep tabs on me.
Just because you made the initial cut of 150 doesn’t mean your position is safe. If someone comes along and requests Facebook friendship and I decide to accept, then I must delete someone to keep my 150 quota. Once I eliminate the categories listed above it becomes an exercise of prioritization. If you suddenly find that you’ve been deleted as my friend, it probably means that someone better came along an replaced you… or I think you’re a judgmental twit.
People whose goal is to collect as many Facebook friends as possible have defeated the entire point of Facebook, which is to stay connected with friends and family. I’m sorry, but if you have more than 300 friends, chances are you have some insecurity issues you need to deal with. Nobody can actually be “friends” with that many people. I’d dare say you could barely remember that many acquaintances’ names, let alone be “friends” with them.
Anyhow, I’m back and I’m setting a blogging goal for myself as I did last year. I have about 120 days left in the year, and my goal is to write 100 posts between now and then. Wish me luck.